I am fairly new to the transgender wars and for the most part have been appalled at the rhetoric, misinformation and hostility. On my own journey, all I wanted was to learn, figure myself out and the alternatives available to me. I was looking for understanding of who I am. I had no interest in what others wanted for themselves except to the extent that their experiences resonated with my own and comforted me that I was learning, not deluding myself. I no more want to make a mistake about who I am than others would have me be a public fraud. I am searching and there are lots of people and viewpoints to help me be and understand the person I really am. That is ultimately personally empowering, life affirming, life saving. An authentic me is far more valuable to society than an unintentionally angry and depressed fraud. The one thing I know for sure is that gender dysphoria is real and crippling to those experiencing it. It is an existential physiological fact, not a psychological illness to be treated. I am not defective, just different.

I have met no transgendered individual who was not on their own journey of self discovery. None I have met or read have presumed to tell others what to do because, in spite of our common trans nature, each of our journeys are unique. Each has its own rhythm and melody. I am here to support and help if anything I have learned or experienced resonates with someone else. I would never dare tell someone else what they must do or be to meet some artificial standard of personhood. I desire to be welcoming, not critical. Understand me; get to know me. You just might find that we have much more in common than you could possibly imagine. You might even like me.