I am not levelling criticisms as I have repeatedly told you. I am making observations about facts and raising questions people should consider. People living in a fantasy world or fooling themselves does not help them. They need to dispassionately analyze where they are in their lives. That is all that I am suggesting. Be true to yourself. The only one who gets hurt by asserting an issue that does not reflect reality is the person with the false narrative. If someone is in fact trans, I am the first one to support them. I did so with you when I barely knew you, at not an insignificant cost I might add.

When I first made the decision to evolve, I had no doubt. I knew exactly who I was, what I needed to do, and was quite certain that I could attain my goal of being passable. I had the resources. Very quickly after that, I asked myself a simple question. “You have lived this long as a male. Are you perhaps just losing your mind?” Remember, I was absolutely positive of who I was. I had no doubt. Nevertheless, to be on the safe side because what I was planning was so extreme, I engaged in a lengthy program to verify my conclusion. I immediately read two dozen biographies of well known and experienced trans women. I read all the medical research I could find. I contacted three therapists and engaged two of them, meeting at least twice peer week. I continued with them even after I was well into my medical/surgical transition until they informed me that they couldn’t justify charging me anymore because I didn’t need them.

My approach was very simple. I needed to be quite certain that I was not missing something. I would encourage anyone else to do the same. Too often I have observed people who are rushing into something when they very clearly have a number of issues which have nothing to do with being trans . I never criticize them or call them fake. I merely raise questions that they may or may not have considered and that for their own well-being they should look into. I often find those who are the most defensive are the ones who are the least certain about who they really are. Interesting how that works.