I ask myself this question often. Part of the issue is financial. We are both retired so generating more income is not really an option. I have enough to live on for the rest of my life, but if I give her too much it would create issues for me going forward. Our house is paid off so our living expenses are nonexistent. If I had to rent a place or buy a new one in this market, my costs would increase dramatically. That would put a lot of pressure on that is hard to overcome. And to be honest, she can be incredibly abusive verbally and mentally. She has screamed and yelled at me and belittled me too many times over nothing. I dread what would happen if I dropped this bombshell on her. It would go nuclear.