I think you have the right kind of balance for your identity. As a more mature trans woman who is passable, I always try to dress tastefully in a way that makes me look like the attractive, conservative woman I really am. Though I am allosexual, I am demisexual in terms of who I am attracted to and who is attracted to me. It has always been important to connect with people on a spiritual and emotional level before I would consider anything more. Hooking up has never been my goal or interest. I enjoy the dance, but I would never seriously consider going home with anyone who views me merely as a sexual object. To me, intimate physical contact is the natural culmination of two people who already connect on a much deeper level. It serves to strengthen and expand the relationship. I am a hopeless romantic and want more. I want to be treasured for the whole woman I am, not as an object of simple desire. In that I think I am much like you.