Some people have an aversion to gay sex. It is simply a fact of life. They are the ones who might feel misled. Indeed, we know from experience that too many do. Why take the risk? I don’t even think they worry about getting their feelings hurt or being perceived as emasculated. It is strictly an emotional reaction, nothing logical about it.

I despise mayonnaise. It makes me physically ill. There is nothing in it that I object to, but yet I avoid it at all costs. The reaction of many cis males is a similar aversion. No rhyme nor reason. It just is. And that is OK as long as they don’t try to control or criticize other people’s identities and behavior. But for those who are genuinely curious, or where things seem to be moving towards intimacy, I think it is entirely appropriate to inform a potential partner of the facts of the situation. That is just common decency and avoids a possible tragic consequence, if they are easily offended.