Thank you for your interesting comment. I have been a member of the trans community for quite a while now and even I do not fully understand the people who call themselves queer entirely. It seems to be a badge of honor which was adopted to push back against those who tried to use it as a pejorative for the gay community.

Someone like me is fairly easy to understand. I used to be a straight heterosexual guy, but had the brain of a woman. When I finally accepted and embraced my identity, I not only became a girl indistinguishable from any other, my sexuality also flipped. According to most psychologists, this is not supposed to happen. I am now a heterosexual girl with the same appetite as any other girl. That was actually quite a surprise to me.

The LGBTQ community can be very complicated. Not all of us are binary, not all of us are gay or lesbian. Sexuality can be totally unrelated to identity. When you start examining the people who fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum, it gets quite complicated. There are gender fluid people. There are gender queer people. There are nonbinary and gender nonconforming people. Psychologists have identified at least 52 gender identities. When I run into someone who seems to still be evolving or who thinks of themselves as a guy one day, and a girl the next, or straight one day and gay the next, it can become quite confusing. I try not to judge. I try to understand.

I have no problem with people being who they are and try to respect that and treat them the way they want to be treated. But maybe this helps a bit in my reply as to why the term cis has become so important as part of the LGBTQIA terminology. There are many members of the community who are cis and many who are not. It just helps us to tell one another apart better. And of course, identifying as cis is also how ordinary people are.

Would it surprise you to know that there are trans women who are quite happy with their sexual equipment and would never change anything? They still identify as women, but they function as males in intimate relationships. There is a lot of overlap between normal heterosexual people and members of our community, and a lot of ways in which we are different. Cis simply means that someone is happy with the body that was given them at birth. Beyond that, all bets are off.