Thank you for your thoughtful (and lengthy!) response. To update you a bit, in the intervening years we have never discussed our Thanksgiving day conversation again. But in many ways, she is more accepting of me than she was, when she still viewed me as a man. We seem to have fallen into a pattern of discussing things more the way that two women do than a father and daughter. I have no residual sense that she is upset or condemns me. Thankfully, the relationship seems to be stronger than ever.

My oldest daughter has always been the quiet type. Over the years, we have not had many in-depth conversations. More recently, we seem to laugh and joke about things that we never did before. I can’t claim to know precisely what she is feeling since she has not shared it. But her demeanor is one of comfort and acceptance. I am grateful for that. ❤️