locke besse
2 min readMay 1, 2022

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The thoroughness of your response is not unexpected but it also points to one of the reasons that I kept my comment limited to my personal experience rather than exploring the whole area of asexuality. I am familiar with all the points you raise because I’ve been involved in those discussions on many occasions in other forums.

The one area that I would perhaps disagree about is whether sexuality can change over one’s life. This one idea, I think, is just one of the reasons that even the experts who study this area at length have such a hard time coming up with a consensus on what it means to be on the spectrum. In the same way that people can be gender fluid in terms of their identities, some days feeling more feminine and others more masculine or neither, I think people on the ace spectrum can also be fluid in terms of their asexuality or sexuality. but I also think it is likely an immutable part of their identity. I think over time people can understand themselves better which may lead them to believe that their sexuality is changing, but I think this is more a process of discovery than a true change. That is certainly the case with myself. In any case, this is a fascinating area of study and I think it can be beaten to death at times because people get so hung up on the labels. I have expressed other places my distaste for labels. The one area it is important, however, is in discerning the difference between low libido and asexuality. They are distinctly different phenomena.

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locke besse
locke besse

Written by locke besse

Eclectic trans woman, terminally curious. Too many degrees. Trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up. Attract stray puppies and social outcasts

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