There is a difference between your conclusion and what I was stating. If you question the legitimacy of the trans community in even a small way (for instance by rejecting gender nonconforming people or those whose needed medical and surgical interventions are minor), you are at least partially attacking an important segment of the larger group. To disagree with certain positions of what it means to be trans is a search for how to properly and inclusively define and protect the community. There is a difference. The discussion gets confusing if you fail to take into account that there are many people who play with the idea of being trans who really aren’t. For those who are, it never goes away. For others it can be a fad. Encouraging self investigation and helping people come up with a more logical self understanding by those who reject the binary allows for nuances. It also helps in assisting the public at large in getting their mental arms around the true shared nature of members of the community. Essentially what you are arguing for is gradations in understanding the commonality of a broad spectrum of experiences within the group. But as part of this you have to define the boundaries of what the community actually is. That is where there is a dividing line between transphobia and acceptance. This discussion is a bit of an apple and orange situation. The two ideas are not really the same.