Very well written description of the difference between celibacy and asexuality. A minor problem I have is that demisexuality seems to be increasingly identified as a form of asexuality. While this is often the case, to me it is too narrow and limited a description of the concept of being demisexual. I am demisexual, but I am also allosexual. I very much like the idea of sex and intimate contact with other people.

As a passable postop trans woman, I have had many offers. I find that I am often viewed as a unique kind of unicorn within the LGBTQ community. Some clearly are excited by the prospect of engaging in intimacy with such an exotic creature. Others are just part of the casual hook up culture who are not really interested in my history. They make advances to me and many others in the hope that someone will go home with them. They are not particularly selective. I am always flattered by the attention, but I am never tempted to just agree to an advance because they find me sexually attractive. Many times I find them attractive and pleasant as well— but something is lacking.

The missing ingredient is that spiritual and emotional connection which is the very essence of my demisexuality. Add that to the mix and my heart races and my imagination goes wild. For me, intimacy is the fulfillment of the connection that occurs between two people. It melds mind and body. I have well-defined sexual needs that I would happily indulge. The possibility excites me anytime I meet someone new, but I need more. My demisexuality demands it.